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January 19, 2008

Death, Tragedy and the Wounded Soul

        A young anorexic woman died in Ireland because her psychiatrist mother drowned her daughter in the bath. It's a tragic story of Gothic proportions going back who knows how many generations. The mother couldn't bear the daughter's anorexia.  The daughter refused treatment.  The mother had an eating disorder.  The grandmother committed suicide.  The story in "This is London" stops there, but the human story has got to go back who knows how far.

       I'm haunted, as many people must be, by the horror, the extremity, the tragedy, the ignorance, the blindness, the waste and the ongoing and spreading suffering of this event.

       Eating disorders go deep into our souls.  Personally I think that they go deep into the souls of the individual with the disorder and also deep into the soul of our society.  Something powerful in our current human condition is bringing up a terrible despair that eating disorders are making public.

       If we can a bring thorough recovery to people with eating disorders, and embrace effective ways of preventing anorexia, bulimia, binge eating disorder and all the rest, we will also be finding a deep cure for the problems in our society that spawn eating disorders.

       I hope this sad and profound tragedy will spur people to look more deeply into both the psychological and cultural forces contributing to sustaining eating disorders in our midst.

       Wounds of the soul are showing.

Joanna Poppink, MFT, psychotherapist eating disorder specialist, Los Angeles, CA bulimia, anorexia, compulsive overeating recovery, www.poppink.com

January 14, 2008

Recent Flurry of Blog Posts Regarding Family Dinner Research

Love is left out of the eating disorder prevention equation yet again.

       Eating disorder prevention does not mean following a check list of correct
behaviors at the dinner table.  It means behaving reasonably  and practically with
a powerful undertone of love, respect, a glad willingness to listen, honesty
confidence to passionately disagree and deep certainty that right or
wrong everyone in the family loves and will stand by everyone else.

       When that is brought to daily life in a family, including family
dinners, eating disorders don't have a chance to develop.

       Researchers have a tough time factoring love in their studies. I can
appreciate the difficulty.  I also am dismayed by research results
that do not consider the presence or absence of genuine love and
respect.

  Researchers say..."what happens at that table has an impact on teens
as well. Juggling schedules to make time for eating together,
creating healthy, nutritious dishes, and having positive interactions
at the table are all components of healthy family meals."
http://www.thatsfit.com/2008/01/14/family-meals-help-girls-avoid-eating-disorders/

       Yes, these are components. Please include love and respect, spacious
time, generous listening, appreciations of differences, honesty and room for laughter
and shared passions.

       Now we're talking about family meals that help prevent eating disorders.

Joanna Poppink, MFT, psychotherapist eating disorder specialist, Los Angeles, CA bulimia, anorexia, compulsive overeating recovery, www.poppink.com

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